SELF-LOVE
by Mosunmola Amodu
A Lady looking at herself in a mirror
Whenever I upload a picture of myself, I usually compliment myself on the picture. It is either my beautiful eyes or my high cheekbones, there is always something I love about myself and I am not ashame to share with others. Loving myself wasn’t something I grew to know, it is something I grew to learn. I learnt the important of self-love.
Self-love is a state of loving oneself that grows from actions that support our physical, mental, social and spiritual growth. Self-love is far beyond you getting yourself the most expensive things you can afford or eating the most expensive food but it is a feeling of acceptance. Accepting yourself for who you are, what you are and what you look like. It is a state of mind and not a state of thought; thinking you would have being more beautiful if your nose can just be smaller or your face longer. A feeling of disgust towards your body or your personality only deprives you of the benefits of a happier and healthier life.
I am dark in complexion and I’m so in love with my colour. I know some ladies that used to be dark but not anymore, they knew they were beautiful with the dark skin but were made to believe a lighter shade of them would be more beautiful. They admire the light skinned lady next door more than they admire themselves, they love the light skinned friend more than they love themselves. I have met some fleshy ladies (I don’t want to use the word ‘fat’) who are very beautiful but they refuse to accept it because they are fleshy, they believe that their life would be more pleasant only if they can be as skinny as the lady they saw on the front cover of a magazine. Whether you are fleshy or skinny, you are beautiful and unique just the way you are. You just have to love and accept yourself for who you are if you want people to love, respect and accept you.
Most ladies feel depressed, stressed, have low self-esteem and generally poor interpersonal relationships because they feel they are not adequte enough. They are like these not truly because they are not adequate enough but because they lack self-love and this makes them psychologically unfit. They drain themselves financially, morally, mentally, emotionally and physically just to disguise and feel among.
I will love you to have this in mind, it is not every lady that is going to be 3Ss; Skinny, Sexy and Statuesque. Some ladies are actually going to be 3Bs; Big, Bold and Beautiful. Don’t follow the crowd, dare to be different, accept the fleshy body and be ready to give that body the shape you desire.
Self-love is an action you take that leads you to the place of feeling good. Good feelings at times need to be practice; we need to learn how to feel good and grow in feeling good and not be embittered by situations around. Try living your life around 3Ls; Love yourself, Look good always and Laugh wholeheartedly.
From Priceless Jewel with Love
